I have a tidbit that may prove helpful - I'm also suffering from this super slow-no UI feedback xcode debugging over wifi issue, BUT I've also found that my Mac is somehow accessing the internet even when I'm not explicitly connected to wifi or bluetooth, so... yeah, I don't know what logs you'd want but I'm down to provide them given any instructions.
Trannosaur
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