Apple Support answered my question, the answer was tvOS platform is a focused based platform, so my filled button was a focus object, which is why my button kept turning gray with a drop shadow. I am using all of my own graphics for my buttons moving forward for my tvOS video game app.
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I also had to make sure my buttons went from "Touch Down" to "Primary Action Triggered"