Switching ssh keys from ecdsa-sha2 to rsa on that git user fixed the issue for me.
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Thank you all above for posting so much detail. In the end it was exactly the fact that it was not a RSA key that fixed the issue for me. I rotated out a ecdsa-sha2 key for rsa and it worked. Of course in doing so I updated the server authorized keys as well, so Xcode just likes a very particular setup.