I was able to get my ipad safari to work with my mac devloper tools with these steps:
Turn off universal control on your mac System Preferences -> displays -> universal control
close Safari on my ipad (make sure you close all instances / windows)
Go into settings -> safari -> advanced
Either turn on the web inspector, or turn it off and then back on.
Launch safari on the iPad.
on the mac click develop -> ipad -> select the tab you want to inspect.
Hope this helps!
Bryan