Video share in Messages

I am building an iOS App that will share video links generated on a web server. User can have Link Previews in iMessages and rich link previews on social platforms. Links have all the parameters for OG, Twitter and oEmbed tags. My problem is that the mentioned links have autoplay when shared in iMessages. How to get the video previews not to have autoplay but a Play button? iMessage player ignores anything I do. The desired UX would be like Youtube has: https://youtu.be/668nUCeBHyY