unable to pair with apple watch without signing in using apple id but cant sign in with apple id because watch is not updated but watch cannot update because it is too old (series 3)

I am unable to get past pairing with apple watch without signing in using apple id to connect messages to the watch but cant sign in with apple id because the watch is not updated but the watch cannot update because it is too old (series 3). And it did do an update when I first paired it. And now it's not attempting to update anymore. And there is no way to access settings on the watch. And there seems to be no way around the messages apple Id screen.