There is an answer here https://stackoverflow.com/a/29111012 that worked for other, but not for me.
However, after manually creating the Downloads folder
~/Library/Caches/com.apple.dt.Xcode/Downloads
I went back to Xcode and it started downloading the simulator. Please check if this works for you as well.
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