I had two devices with no visible Developer Mode option.
I sucessfully updated both of them, with following steps
connected devices to mac.
goto settings main screen on iPhone/iPad.
select target as device, hit Build/Run on them via Xcode.
you'll see standard cannot run message on Xcode.
visiting Privacy & security now results in Developer Mode option available.
Hope this helps.
hasnatt
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