After trying all methods noted in here, I contacted apple support and was able to resolve the issue quite quickly.
I reset the watch, erased all content and settings and on my Iphone I reset network settings.
After this the update worked. It took a while though, but my watch (4 series) paired with iphone 12.
hope this helps, I know how frustrating it was.
Suela79
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